Divorce hurts. Period.
It hurts everyone involved.
A young woman whose parents divorced years ago wrote on her Facebook wall about how horrible divorce is and how it hurts the children involved. She goes on to say that people should think before getting married and having children, and should not divorce just because they don't get along anymore.
Words from a sad heart. Honest words from a young woman who is a friend of my oldest son. Words that cut through my heart.
For so many years words hurt me, destroyed who I was. I became good at denying my hurt or any feelings for that matter. It was safer not to feel.
Yet the hurt was there, always there, buried deep in my heart and the very soul of my body.
The hurt of hateful, painful words spewed at me and my children. Words spoken in contempt and rage. The words flew in unexpected moments, knocking the recipient completely off guard, crashing into them and through them like a freight train.
Hurt could never be spoken or showed. It was to be brushed off like a piece of lint and then discarded. Brush it away and pretend it was never there.
Try as I might, the hurt found residence deep in my heart and soul for so many years. And to this day, I ache a little for what might have been, but I know that try as I may it would never have changed.
Time has shown me the truth and revealed that change in a marriage takes two willing people.
Yes, divorce hurts. It hurts so many involved, not just the children. Sometimes it is a relief for those in situations that remained unhealthy and unchanging. A relief to be able to finally begin feeling again, to breathe easier and sweep up the eggshells that had covered the floor of their lives.
I pray that one day, my boys will come to know the truth and know that I made the best decision I could, for both them and myself.
I pray that all children of divorce can find a peace and acceptance.
And I pray that God will work all things for His good.
Through the hurt of it all, there is eventually joy and peace and a renewing of our lives.
You CAN Eat Beef Heart!
2 months ago
1 comment:
As an adult, I can still clearly remember the pain of my parents' divorce, but I can also see how much happier they are now. Still, there are so many things on this earth that are hurtful...I think it is hard for most people to be truly happy. That is why I no longer look for happiness here on earth, but keep my eyes on heaven and eagerly await the day I can be with Jesus! :)
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